Menstruation is a natural phenomenon. Having periods makes one very vulnerable. Studies suggest that during this phase, fluctuations in reproductive hormones interact with brain chemistry and organs, making one more sensitive to stress, emotional rollercoasters, and physical pain, before or during the period. If your partner menstruates and you haven’t ever experienced it, you might often be unsure of what they are going through and must be wondering how to care for them in a way that they need. There are many ways you can show up for your partner and support them during this vulnerable time. Your support and care matter a lot to them, more than they say out loud.
I have realized that my girlfriend goes through a rough time dealing with her period. I am not very educated on this topic, so I would like to know any tips on reducing pain and things I can do to help her.
Answered by Dr. Fatima Abbasi, MBBS on August 21, 2026
I am so sorry to hear that your girlfriend has a hard time dealing with her period. As a partner, it must be a stressful situation for you. I will try my best to help you out.
- Painkillers: Pain is usually caused by cramping (contraction of the uterine lining) caused by prostaglandin production. Anti-inflammatory painkillers reduce the production of prostaglandins instead of masking the pain. Therefore, it is important to take such painkillers when the first signs of period pain are there instead of waiting for the pain to properly set in. One thing to remember is that anti-inflammatory painkillers don’t suit everyone. People with asthma, stomach problems, or kidney issues sometimes need to avoid them. I would suggest that you stick to painkillers that have already been prescribed to her.
- Heat: Studies show that heat applied to the lower abdomen alongside painkillers has better results. A hot water bottle or a heat patch that stays on under clothes both work equally well. Gentle movement, decent sleep, and staying hydrated all tend to help to some extent.
- Period Readiness and Support: You can also keep track of when her/their period is due. Restock on her go-to tampons/cups/pads. Get her heating pad charged. Prepare her a snack basket according to her cravings. But the most important thing you can do is ask her/them what she needs at the moment and how you can help her.
- Support throughout the Cycle: It’s also worth knowing that a menstrual cycle isn’t only the bleeding days. Energy, sleep, appetite and mood shift across the whole month for many people, which is why a fortnight can feel quite different from the one before it.
None of this means you need to become an expert. Just understanding your partner’s needs during the cycle and the right amount of support can definitely make you a better partner!